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Sharing your Faith with Your Muslim Friends
Maryam is a Muslim student who was born in the UK. She lives with her family – parents, siblings and grandparents in the one home. Maryam wears a head scarf, she is active in the University Muslim Students Association, and you notice that she’s fasting during Ramadan.
Aziz came to the UK as a refugee a number of years ago from the Middle East. He’s always been a Muslim, it’s who he is, what his family is, but he never goes to the mosque. Although close to his family who are back in his home country, he enjoys the freedom of being in a foreign city and is curious about western society and culture.
Across the globe, almost one person in every four (24%) identifies in some way as a Muslim.(i) There are around 3.4 million Muslims in the UK.(ii)
Origins of Islam
Islam emerged in Arabia in the seventh century AD. Muslims believe that God (Allah in Arabic) called Muhammad to be a prophet and gave him a message for his people. Following Muhammad’s death, the Muslims (or ‘Arabs’ as they were referred to in contemporary records) expanded their rule into the Middle East and North Africa. Today many countries have Muslim majorities, from Indonesia in the east to Morocco in the west. In addition, many other nations contain significant Muslim minorities, including many European nations.
You can learn more about the origins of Islam in our article on it.
Your Muslim neighbour may be very devout, or she may not practice her faith at all.
Muslims vary hugely across the globe, and something of that diversity will be reflected among Muslims in the UK. This makes it important to get to know Muslims as individuals and not assume that they conform to some stereotypical pattern or idea of what we think a Muslim should be and do. Your Muslim neighbour may be very devout, or she may not practice her faith at all. (There are even those who describe themselves as ’agnostic Muslim’). He may adhere to a particular sect or movement, which may have quite different emphases and beliefs from other groups within Islam. You will only find out by getting to know and talking with them.
Having said that, there are some basic beliefs and practices that the vast majority of Muslims would view as normative, whether or not they adhere to these closely. You can read more about these in our article here:
https://www.mahabbanetwork.com/resource/what-do-muslims-believe
Muslim Cultures
We have already stressed the huge variety among Muslims and the importance of getting to know and talk to individuals. Having said that, most Muslim cultures are far less individualistic than western culture is. Family is hugely important for most Muslims, and for many, adherence to Islam and identity as a Muslim are tied up with loyalty to their family. Islam is not regarded as a ‘religion’ compartmentalised from the rest of life; it is a total way of life, and that way of life is very much bound up with family and community – it is who we are.
Islam is not regarded as a ‘religion’ compartmentalised from the rest of life – it is a total way of life
In the West, we tend to be individualistic about sharing our faith with others. With people from Muslim, and indeed, many other cultures, it is important to keep in mind that the individual you know is likely to be part of a very strong family – learn to think family.
If you can, get to know members of your Muslim friend’s family. At the very least, pray for the whole family and take an interest in them. Sometimes, Bible verses or stories I have shared with one person have been passed on by them to other members of their family.
Sharing Your Faith
The good news is that talking about your faith with Muslims is relatively easy. Muslim cultures tend to be ‘non-secular’. Unlike in some Western contexts, talking about God and spiritual matters is not taboo, it is very natural. So you can be very open about your faith – about praying, reading the Bible, being part of a church or fellowship group, trusting God, seeking to honour God with your life.
Here are ten pointers for sharing your faith with your Muslim friend:
Be a good friend
The Gospel is not just words/doctrines, but it affects your whole life. If you are walking with the Lord, that will show in your life. When Muslims come to faith in Christ, usually the friendship of a Christian is a key influence.
‘Be quick to listen, slow to speak’ and ask questions
Muslims share basic common beliefs, but there are vast variations. There is no single ‘typical’ Muslim, and no one way to tell the good news. Therefore, it is vitally important to listen and understand the particular individual/ group you are relating to (that’s true with everyone, not just Muslims). Ask about beliefs and practices. Often, they will be very happy to share – and may ask questions back.
Don’t criticise the Qur’an, Muhammad or Islam
Such criticism will often slam the door shut to further witness. Some may have questions and doubts, but criticism is likely to put people on the defensive. ‘Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect’ . (1 Peter 3:15)
Don’t focus on a religion, ‘Christianity’
Christianity is frequently viewed as the religion of the West and as being tied up with Western culture. I remember a conversation with a Muslim friend where he said, ‘I was chatting to a couple of Christians in the shop the other day,’ when I knew from the context that the only thing to distinguish them as Christians was that they had white skin. We might have a clear idea of what we mean by ‘becoming a Christian’, but your Muslim friend may understand it very differently. She may understand it in terms of rejecting everything in her background, her whole culture and way of life, and becoming like the majority of Westerners. Our desire and prayer for our friend is not that they abandon everything in their religious-cultural heritage so much as abandoning their idols, whatever those idols may be. And instead of rejecting their background in its entirety, our desire and prayer should be that Muslims bring their background to the Lord Jesus to submit it to him and allow him to transform it.
Focus instead on the Holy Books and, most of all, on a person. The Taurāt, Zabūr and Injīl are, according to the Qur’an, revelation from Allah. And these Scriptures are about a person – the Lord Jesus Christ, who said, ‘These are the very Scriptures that testify about me’ (John 5:39)
Use the Bible (and use it creatively)
Often narrating a story from the Bible can resonate with Muslim friends, and of course, the Lord Jesus frequently told stories. Many Muslim cultures have a strong tradition of storytelling, particularly stories of prophets. The Bible is full of engaging, exciting narrative, much of it about characters recognised as prophets by Muslims – use it. Part of the power of stories is that they are not usually directly confrontational but can communicate effectively in a way that a straightforward propositional statement often cannot. Another way of using the Bible is texting verses or short passages to friends. Recently I’ve been texting parts of Psalms or even whole Psalms to Muslim friends, who really appreciate them as prayers of the prophet David. You might be able to think of other creative ways of using the Bible.
Take care when speaking about Messiah Jesus
Some care is needed in communicating who the Messiah Jesus is. Notice I use the title ‘Messiah Jesus.’ In many Muslim cultures titles are an important way of honouring people, and speaking about plain ‘Jesus’ may seem a bit disrespectful to many Muslims.
It may be best initially to avoid using the term ‘Son of God’ and then later to explain what it does and doesn’t mean.
Speaking of Jesus as divine is likely to be met with bafflement and/or outright rejection of the idea. Remember though, that Jesus didn’t on day one announce himself to be God. He invited his disciples to follow him and spend time with him, to listen, observe and learn, and to begin a journey of discovery. As they heard his claims and witnessed the things he did, they wrestled with the question, ‘Who is this?’ (Mark 4:41) It is only after three or so years with him and then witnessing his resurrection from the dead that they come to worship him as, in Thomas’ words, ‘My Lord and my God!’ (John 20:28) Our desire and prayer for our Muslim friends is that they go on a similar journey of discovery – so we need over time to expose them to Jesus as he is portrayed in the Gospel narratives. And be patient; there is much for your Muslim friend to process – it will normally take time.
Be aware of issues around the cross and resurrection
The death and resurrection of Christ is particularly difficult as many Muslims have been told that Jesus wasn’t crucified but was taken up to heaven. The Qur’an is somewhat ambiguous on this, but for many the issue is similar to that of the earliest disciples – how could God let the honourable Messiah die such a disgraceful death? A crucified Messiah was a contradiction in terms. Jesus’ own way of dealing with that was to take his disciples to the Old Testament: ‘“Did not the Messiah have to suffer these things and then enter his glory?” And beginning with Moses and all the Prophets, he explained to them what was said in all the Scriptures concerning himself’ (Luke 24:26-27)
Focus on what God is like
Don’t get hung up on whether or not Allah, whom Muslims worship, is the same as the God Christians worship. Muslims who come to faith in Christ usually have a sense of continuity between the God they knew about from their background and the God they now worship through Christ. They have now come to know God personally. The question is not, which God? but, what is God like? The important thing is to communicate biblical content about Allah/God. (‘Allah’ is the only word for God in Arabic, is used by Muslims whatever their mother-tongue is, and has been used by Arabic-speaking Jews and Christians since pre-Islamic times).
Pray for, and if appropriate, pray with your Muslim friend
They may ask you to pray for them, or they may share with you some trouble or struggle they are experiencing. I have often found Muslims very appreciative when I have prayed with them. (I don’t usually address God as ‘Father’ when praying with Muslims as that would be a distraction right at the beginning of the prayer. I do, however, finish my prayer ‘in the name of/through Jesus the Messiah’).
Sharing Jesus with Muslim friends is a tremendous privilege. They often have many struggles in their spiritual journey. Take the long view – be patient and pray!
Resources
· There are all kinds of helpful material on relating well to Muslims and sharing your faith on the Mahabba website.
· Holy Injil, Luke is a beautifully presented translation of Luke’s Gospel into English using religious terminology and names that are familiar to Muslims. It also provides notes to help the Muslim reader navigate their way through Luke. Available here.
(i) Conrad Hackett and David McClendon, “Christians Remain World’s Largest Religious Group, but They Are Declining in Europe,” online:(cited 29 March 2021)
(ii) “Muslim Population in the UK,” online: (cited 29 March 2021).
*This article by D Peters is adapted from one that was first published on UCCF’s Bethinking site.